He loves me, He loves me not… He loves me, He loves me not.
Ladies, before you use the love portion, here are 11 sure signs to tell if a man is developing deep feelings for you.
He may or may not say it, but he will do the following when he’s head over heels falling in love with you.
1. He Chips in Financially
In his book, Think Like a Man, Act Like a Lady, Steve Harvey writes
“Simply put, a man who loves you will bring that money home to make sure that you and the kids have what you all need. That is our role — our purpose… The more he can provide for his woman and his kids, the bigger and more alive he feels.“
Yap, a man who truly loves you will pay the bills – rent, electricity bill, school tuition, groceries and all other household expenditures.
As a lady, it’s okay if you’ve been raised to go dutch and pull out the cheque book during dates. But remember, a man will do all it takes to ensure his people are reasonably satisfied and taken care of.
If you deny him this, he will eventually do it for someone else’s daughter, just not you.
2. He’s Not Shy About the PDA
Physical touch is one of the surest signs of affection.
It may be cringy, but he cares less. Because when his skin touches yours, it feels like you’re the only two people existing.He is comfortable enough to express his feelings and he does so physically.
If a man loves you, he will randomly reach for your hand, kiss you on the forehead and put his arm around your waist.
He will be the king of hugs and cuddles and you won’t escape his relentless affection.
He may make the little touches seem accidental, but it’s his way of saying he wants you. He is not afraid of showing it publicly, and he cares less about everyone else’s opinion.
Did You Know:
It takes a man only 8 seconds to fall in love but 88 days to say it.
3. Loves Hanging Out with You
Darling, if you have to fight for a man’s attention, then he’s not the one.
Regardless of how busy a man is, he will always make time for the things and people he loves. And when he loves you, it will come naturally without you even asking.
That means he calls you a lot, he’s always making plans to see you, sends you texts, facetimes you – basically, he does everything just to be with you.
Even when the thrill is gone, you are still his favorite hanging spot. Doesn’t matter whether it’s in the park or subway, provided you are present.
4. He is Himself
Men are overgrown kids.
So, don’t be immediately frustrated when he stops cleaning after himself, leaves dishes on the couch or pees on the toilet seat– that, maybe a little.
This point may be a bit contradictory considering a man trying to impress you will be the perfect gentleman.
That’s because when starting a relationship, we present the best version of ourselves. With time, we let the other person see our true selves.
It is a good sign that he no longer holds in the farts. You are so comfortable around each other that silence is no longer awkward.
By being himself, a man creates an environment for love to grow naturally and genuinely.
5. He Has Eyes Only For You
It’s rude not to check out a hot woman (or man) out. But when you are around, you are the only hot person for his eyes; that’s a cardinal rule.
You can tell a lot about a man’s love for you by how he interacts with people of the opposite sex.
It’s totally okay for him to talk and interact with other ladies, but you won’t catch him gazing lustfully. Because your curves are all that he ogles.
Loyalty is extremely important, unnegotiable even, when in a serious relationship.
If he sees a future with you, he will stop hitting on women and reciprocatory ignore those who hit on him. He will stop all casual relationships if present and will not wander off with other people.
He knows what he wants and he’s not afraid of going for it. No tricks, no gimmicks, just pure and genuine love.
6. He Gets You Gifts
Gifting is among the five languages of love.
It’s rarely about the gift itself, but the thought and effort behind it. A man getting you a gift is him saying he is thinking about you and wants you to have the best.
He saw something, thought of you and wanted to spend his hard earned money on you.
Most men are not good at talking their feelings out. Some are equally poor with physical touch. To make up for these, they’ll express their feelings by taking the time to get you something special.
So, take note of when he surprises you with your favorite snack during your lunch break, or leaves a flower in the morning at your table side. Men don’t do this for just anyone.
7. He Loves Your Flaws
We all have flaws, everyone, from physical ones to poor habits.
When a man doesn’t comment or isn’t bothered by these imperfections, it doesn’t mean that he’s not noticed them. It’s only because he doesn’t care, or better yet, finds them cute.
He won’t scold you for taking too long to wear your makeup or being absent-minded. Your craziness and weirdness brightens his mood and only makes him want you more. That’s a sign he’s a definite keeper!
8. He Actually Listens
He remembers your birthday, quotes your favorite movie and can predict what you’ll order the next time you are at a restaurant– for a gender known for their absent-mindedness, this is massive.
A man who loves you will be attentive to what you are saying. He’ll set his phone aside whenever you are having a conversation, look you in the eye and listen to what you have to say.
9. The Sex Is Incredible
Yes, sex says a lot about how a man feels.
Love is the secret ingredient to incredible sex. When you are in love, sex becomes more than just pleasure. It is a way of connecting to your other half.
He takes his time without any rush. The kisses are prolonged and he makes eye contact. While there may or may not be tension, you can instantly feel the chemistry. That’s how you know he enjoys making love to you.
Pro Tip:
Movements of the hands tell a lot if a man enjoys making love to you. If he does, he’ll caress your waist, gently brush the hair off your face and hold your hands tenderly. Such non-verbal cues convey passion and affection.
10. Introduces You to the ‘Gang’
The final piece of the puzzle is getting the approval of the ‘gang.’
Sure, a guy introducing you to his buddies doesn’t necessarily mean that you are the one. But it’s a positive sign that he wants you to meet important people in his life.
A man will introduce you to his inner circle if he sees a future with you. This is his way of seeking the opinion and approval of his trusted companions and wants to know how well you fit in.
Similarly, he projects the same energy on you.
He wants to meet your kiths and kins. He is eager to be invited to social events and family gatherings and will actually put in the effort of getting to know your relatives.
It’s always a good sign when a guy is invested in forming relationships and getting approval from people on your side.
11. Tells it to You Point Blank
“I love you” 3 words, 8 letters that every person craves from their man
While these magical words come easy for women, it’s not always the same with guys. So, if he says he loves you– especially if he’s not the type to say it often– then it means he does.
Watch Out For the Signs
Love transcends time and logic, and can be both exhilarating and daunting. Deciphering it may be a big mystery, even for professionals.
Observe these signs, but more importantly, foster a foundation for communication.
Let things flow naturally and cherish the moments between you and your partner.
